13th December. Friday in the 2nd Week of Advent
Memorial of Saint Lucy, virgin and martyr
First Reading: Isaiah 48:17-19
(If you heeded my commandments, your name would last forever)
Thus says the Lord, your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel: I am the Lord your God, who teaches you for your own good, who leads you in the way you should go. O that you had paid attention to my commandments! Then your prosperity would have been like a river, and your success like the waves of the sea; your offspring would have been like the sand, and your descendants like its grains; their name would never be cut off or destroyed from before me.
Gospel: Matthew 11:16-19
(Jesus blames his generation who listened neither to John the Baptist nor to himself.)
Jesus said to his disciples, “To what will I compare this generation? It is like children sitting in the marketplaces and calling to one another, â€˜We played the flute for you, and you did not dance; we wailed, and you did not mourn. â€˜ For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, â€˜He has a demon’; the Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, â€˜Look, a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!’ Yet wisdom is vindicated by her deeds.”
Different strokes for different folks
Each person prefers one lifestyle over another, and that is very normal. God created each one of us with a distinctive personality, special preferences, individualized vocations. Because we tend to become overly specialized with strong likes and dislikes, we badly need others to complement what we are lacking. St. Paul even went so far as to say that each of us must fill up what is lacking in the body of Christ! Yet we tend to resist this advice; we do not want to admit our weaknesses. We even become defensive and then aggressive if others detect our inability to perform or control.
This ability to fill in what is missing in any of us becomes the main point of Jesus’ words. He quoted a proverb which stated exceptionally well how we need joyful people who readily dance and compassionate people who readily sympathize with others’ grief. Yet each was spurned and ridiculed: “We piped you a tune but you did not dance! We sang you a dirge but you did not wail!” Jesus was leading up to this punchline: John the Baptist was seen neither eating nor drinking, and people say, “He is mad!” The Son of Man was seen eating and drinking, and they say, “This one is a glutton and a drunkard, a lover of tax collectors and those outside the law!” Many practical conclusions can be drawn from these words, but most of all he is pleading with us to give the other person a chance. We must not judge harshly nor condemn too quickly. Others have every right to that which God provides so plentifully and so freely – namely, time.
We all need time to grow and so develop our own individual talents. We long to be encouraged and affirmed, so that we can keep trying. Others must be patient and tolerant, overlooking mistakes, gently correcting, learning from us all the while. As a community or family, we must be anxious to profit from all the talents around us – from those prompt to sympathize with our sorrows, from those who are austere, as well as from those who are more easygoing, sociable and even bounding outside the accepted norms. Jesus ate with tax collectors and others outside the law.
If we remain united in love, we will be long in patience and slow with judgment. We will persevere through all difficulties and give everyone the necessary time and space to grow and to make his contribution. We will feel a serious need for the help and contribution of others, all the more as we develop our own specialized talents. Only through others will we be truly balanced and integral in our values and attitude.